So much depends on people’s mood, especially when it comes to trying something new and potentially risky. Nearly half of the models I’ve been recruiting changed their minds and canceled the photoshoot, usually a just few days ahead of the shooting date.
In May 2019 this happened to me three times in a row, and it also happened twice in November. This is something that still drives me nuts, even though it’s just “part of doing the job” and I should just account for it, lower my expectations and not take it personally. Naturally, I get excited when a good looking model agrees to the photoshoot and then feel disappointed when he cancels. I also have a schedule to stick to and when I have dropouts, especially several in a row, I get very nervous.
My promise to my subscribers is to provide new content at least once a week. I have always delivered and I plan to keep it that way. Ideally I would have at least a month of “reserve content”, but so far this year I’ve been just barely able to keep up. Perhaps to my audience it seems like I have an abundance of great models and that everything is seamless, but it has actually been very difficult.
Earlier this year I realized that finding exceptionally good-looking models is my number one priority for Bodytorium. Without having something new and amazing on a regular basis, I have nothing to show and my site has no value. Marketing is very important too, but I don’t believe in marketing something I don’t feel proud of. So far I’ve been doing marketing in a very careful, gradual, unforceful and minimalistic manner, but this is a topic for another time.
So why do some guys change their mind, often at the last minute? There are several factors: I don’t recruit professional models or exhibitionists. Young men, especially those who are still in high school and live with their parents are more likely to be discouraged by the thought of their friends or parents finding their nude photos. I don’t deal with Instagrammers who post their nudes 24/7 and are dying for attention.
Another potential factor is that people seem to have difficulty committing to anything at an increasing rate. From my observations, It’s becoming trendy for young people to act like nothing means anything and nothing matters. People are disposable, everything changes all the time and planning is impossible. But after reflecting on a recent very disappointing cancelation or change of heart, I realized that the guys I seek to photograph sometimes agree to do something that’s very unusual yet adventurous to them when they are in a good mood. But later they change their minds when they are in a lower mood and their worries and uncertainty set in.
When I asked the last model why he changed his mind he just wrote “I don’t know. I’m just not in the mood.” So it’s simple as that. People’s moods change, sometimes very quickly, and they lose their interest in doing something different or adventurous. I read somewhere a while ago that people are much more likely to try new things when they are in a good mood.
Andrew is Back
There have been lots of ups and downs related to models this year. For example Andrew didn’t show up for his photoshoot last weekend for various complicated reasons. I was told of the cancelation two hours after his expected arrival. But let’s finally turn the page to some good news. Andrew did manage to make up for last week’s no show and his second photoshoot was as impressive as the first one. Andrew will return to Bodytorium on December 27.
Michal K’s Second Photoshoot
Michal K joined part of the photoshoot with Andrew even though both guys seemed uneasy at first when I proposed to schedule them together. I had to reassure them that they would not be photographed “doing stuff together” and that they would just take turns being photographed at the same location. All went well shortly after we met and Andrew and Michal got along well and even helped each other out during the shoot. Michal’s second main feature (excluding smaller bonus posts) will be posted on January 3.
Changed his mind again
I’ll conclude this blog post with another positive note—fingers crossed—that the beautiful model who canceled because he wasn’t in the mood any more, changed his mind once again and we have a photoshoot scheduled next week. I will leave it at that and hopefully next week I’ll have more good news. 😉